DEAR BONNIE: My sister, who did nothing to help with the care of my dad while he was dying, now wants everything she thinks she is entitled to now that he has passed. I took him home with me, and I could not work for three years, and she thinks she can step in and take whatever she wants. We have not talked now for months, and I don’t see a way for us to get past this. All through our lives, even as children and now adults, she has always wanted what I have and has become bitter with each success I have had in my life. My question to you is why? And how do I handle this conflict? Thanks, Avril
DEAR AVRIL: You are not alone. As a medium and counselor, I hear this much more than you would think, as this circumstance is much more common than you can imagine. Do not let conflict steal your peace of mind or weigh heavy on your heart. When we give up our own happiness, we give up our own personal power, and we take away our joy in life.
If you did everything you could to help a parent live their best life until the end, be proud of yourself. My mom always told me that if I did my best, that was all that was asked of us. Giving up your power or living in misery is not the way to live, nor would God and Spirit want that for you.
I know the lessons we are meant to learn in life can be difficult to understand, especially when the lessons involve our siblings and family, but sometimes these lessons help us to be the person we are becoming. We need to experience all things in life to become stronger in our own hearts and spirit. To love unconditionally gives us the freedom to take care of ourselves and our own hearts and to grow with love, sympathy, and compassion for others. They are big lessons and not always a pill that is easy to swallow. Unfortunately, we might not get that same respect from the people we encounter or family and friends.
However, if you let in others’ envy, contention, rivalry, or selfish ambition, it becomes your own. You are then giving away a small piece of yourself that might be hard to get back. Having peace within yourself is so much more than anything someone can think or do to you. Be grateful that these feelings are not yours, and find forgiveness for your sister, as God has taught me that a piece of God is within her as well. We might never know why someone treats us the way they do but try not to judge as we might not know what has happened to that Soul that makes them react to us in a certain way or to have these unloving feelings towards us.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. It’s our hearts that matter so give yourself the peace that you have always tried to do the right thing. That does not mean we forget, but forgiveness is a present to ourselves. Sometimes, we just need to move through things with grace to experience growth in our own souls and our soul journey. Take back your joy; that is your responsibility. I always knew in my heart that when someone was treating me unfairly, God was going to give me double the blessings for doing the right thing.
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Have an open heart and walk in love. You are meant to have more. External circumstances don’t matter. Go within. That is where you will find eternal love and the peace that we all deserve.
Bonnie Page is a psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and Reiki master. She is available for private sessions by calling her office at 978-413-5704 or visiting her website at www.bonniepagemedium.com. If you would like to ask Bonnie a question for her column, please send it to bonnie@bonniepagemedium.com
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